Can i dm you or nah

Treat people like people, even online. It may take a couple times, it may take several times, it may take lots and lots and lots of times before it makes total sense to pitch them. If at all possible, pitch them with a lot of ease. I pitch you a lot on this show without pitching you.

We do have a solid pitch at the end of every episode because guess what guys? This is a marketing tool. But also, I say things. I reference things. No, no. You could book that here. Okey dokey? Honor your boundaries. I want you to feel good about this tool. Know your boundaries, and then honor them.

I want to talk to you. I like talking to you. The podcast, for me, gets fun once it comes out. I enjoy recording the podcast too, but the podcast really hit their best for me after they come out, you listen, and I get to hear what you think.

This is just the start of a conversation. I want you to talk back. I want to let this be the jumping off point for a larger conversation, and so I tell you that. I also do it when I speak at events. Come see me on Instagram. I really recommend you find those points in the conversation where you can remind people you want to talk on Instagram.

I want you to give people the call to action to do it. Open the door. Invite them. Act as you want people to act. That whole Golden Rule situation, guys. I want you to show up the way you want people showing up in the world. Just be in your DMs. Engage in that way. I really like the fire one, or the heart eyes. Happy birthday. That sounds like fun. Happy anniversary.

Hey, what a big milestone. Oh my gosh! Guess what? I go spend time doing that. Twitter has just announced a major change to their DM system. In a new update rolling out today on iPhone and Android phones, you will be able to send and receive DMs from anyone, whether they follow you or not! The short answer is no. The longer answer is, that this only refers to your side of the onversation, in any chat app. Sent means nothing more than that the message was sent from your device to theirs.

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So this is for them, too. But what I am saying is that this is new territory for us all so I thought it could be useful to put down some thoughts on etiquette. This is meant to be light-hearted, not a complaint — and might open just some eyes to the kind of messages we receive….!

I am all for constructive feedback, but often there is a reason the message is being sent behind closed doors. It was rarely important, but I had no idea how it affected other members of my team, they would open the email just before going to bed and then be thinking about it as they went to sleep. A few people have told me recently that I have a responsibility to share certain things; I try my hardest to be mindful, polite, helpful but it is, at the end of the day, okay for me to use my channel as I so wish.

I do not owe anyone anything other than what I put out there. People change, mature, their opinions develop. People can be lots of things, most of which seem at odds with each other: nice yet annoying, seemingly perfect yet flawed, feminist and love makeup, care about the environment and clothes. And finally: remember there is a human at the end of the message.

Not an automated assistant, it takes time to respond to people and sometimes a quick, icy message just reeled off on a bad day sometimes even well meaning can be the message that keeps the respondent awake at night or ruins their evening. And I count myself lucky to have lovely, engaged readers who love to share their thoughts and recommendations with me, but as with most popular platforms, it seems to come at a price.

Boundaries and etiquette are obvious to me on social media. Reading Instagram comments sometimes feels like being in a Customer Service chat. You are a person, not a multinational corporation with call centre staff. Hope some people understand that and are more thoughtful about it. Lastly, you are doing the right thing by protecting your mental health, which is what this is all about. Hope this new-territory business sorts itself out.

Sending love and support! Ha, love the Nigel Slater response. I always enjoy your content, I think you come across beautifully on camera and Peggy is just adorable to watch. I am glad that you have followers who obviously feel the same and I am always grateful for the interesting content that you provide x. Yes, sometimes it can be a burden reading all these messages in private, I must admit!

I am lucky, I do not get even a fraction of what others do — but I think it is a good point to remember what is really important in life….! Because when you reply, that person replies and so on….

I think you strike the perfect balance of lovely genuine content and you are one of my go-to accounts every day. Keep doing what you do…especially writing posts like this. LOVE x. Yes — it can become a bit like WhatsApp which I turned off my notifications for, and it really made a difference to my free time!

I agree completely with your etiquette rules! They should be law! It actually means a lot x. I also turn on messages only when I have time to reply, that way no one is typing messages to a blank wall! Connecting with like-minded women and the friendships that have translated into real life including you! But it is also a source of my deepest insecurities and self-criticism, and although I rarely get a nasty comment, the ones I do stick with me and eat into my self-confidence for days or even years.